Chatgpt and a human overhauled my dating profiles what i learned


I asked ChatGPT and a human matchmaker to redo my Hinge and Bumble profiles. They helped show me what works


One way to improve my profiles could be to shell out dollars to a professional dating app writer. Yet, with people testing a new spate of free, generative AI bots with almost everything under the sun, I wondered: How might ChatGPT fare at writing a dating profile?


I asked ChatGPT and a human matchmaker to redo my Hinge and Bumble profiles. They helped show me what works.


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My profiles on the dating apps Bumble (above) and Hinge could use some help. So I enlisted ChatGPT and a human writer to overhaul them. Lakshmi Varanasi/Alyssa Powell/Insider


    
  
  • I wanted to see how ChatGPT would overhaul a dating profile, so I used it on my Hinge and Bumble.
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  • To compare, I also enlisted the help of a human — a professional dating app writer named Lydia Kociuba.
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  • Both the app and the human writer showed me that being direct is key. Here's what else I learned.
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Dating apps are supposed to lower the social pressures of attracting a partner — in theory.


Just download an app, create a profile with a few pictures and a witty bio, and boom: You're circulating among a virtual pool of people you know are single — or at least open to your romantic overtures. There's no need for the guessing games that can make real-life interactions … awkward.


In practice, though, I've found that crafting a profile that's polished yet personal enough to attract the right partner isn't easy. Matches say my profiles are vague and don't really offer much information for them to start a meaningful conversation.


One way to improve my profiles could be to shell out dollars to a professional dating app writer. Yet, with people testing a new spate of free, generative AI bots with almost everything under the sun, I wondered: How might ChatGPT fare at writing a dating profile?


I decided to see whether human talent or artificial intelligence would win out in the world of romantic pursuits. I asked a professional dating app writer to craft Bumble and Hinge profiles for me — the two apps on my phone right now. I put ChatGPT to the test, too.


Here's what happened …

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I took the path well-traveled to finding a dating app writer by searching for one on Google. Hidden Gem, which bills itself as a professional online dating profile-writing service, was one of the first results on Google search.

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Lydia Kociuba, the writer behind Hidden Gem, told me she credits her success to her search-engine-optimization skills. She said web search is the main way clients find her.


While Kociuba has been writing dating profiles since 2016, she said her business has really picked up in the past two years. She said she has 20 to 30 clients a month and offers packages ranging from $85 for one profile, $105 for two profiles, and $125 for unlimited profiles.

Lydia Kociuba

Insider paid Kociuba her normal fee of $105 to write my two profiles for the purposes of this story and I verified her number of clients by reviewing her monthly PayPal statements from February and March.